Online self harm counselling with care and without judgement
If you've been hurting yourself, you're probably carrying a lot more than anyone can see. Online self harm counselling gives you a calm, private place to talk with a qualified therapist from home. Nobody will be shocked or tell you off. We're here to listen and help.
- Qualified, vetted therapists
- Evening & weekend sessions
- Talk from home
A sign that something hurts inside
Self-harm is when someone hurts themselves on purpose as a way of coping with feelings that seem too big to bear. It's a sign of deep emotional distress, not attention-seeking and not something to be ashamed of. Many people keep it secret for a long time because they're worried about how others will react.
People describe many different reasons. Some feel overwhelmed and don't know what else to do with the pain. Some feel numb or disconnected, or full of anger, guilt or self-hatred. Often it's linked to things that have happened, like bullying, loss, abuse or pressure that's become too much.
Whatever your reasons, you deserve support. Self-harm can be helped, and online self harm counselling can help you understand what's going on underneath and find other ways through the hardest moments.
The weight people carry quietly
Self-harm often comes with other struggles that are just as important to talk about. Counselling makes room for all of it.
Your feelings
Big emotions can build up with nowhere to go. Many people who self-harm also live with anxiety, low mood or a very harsh inner voice.
Secrecy and shame
Keeping things hidden can be exhausting. Worrying about being found out can make you feel even more alone.
Your relationships
It can be hard to let people close, or to know how to ask for help. You might feel like a burden when you're really someone who needs support.
Your sense of self
Over time, it's easy to start seeing yourself through the lens of self-harm. Counselling helps you reconnect with the rest of who you are.
Finding other ways through the pain
Online self harm counselling isn't about forcing you to stop or making you promise anything. It's about understanding the feelings that lead to self-harm and slowly building other ways to cope with them. Your therapist will go at your pace and treat you with warmth and respect.
Support often works best as a team. Your GP can offer medical care and talk through other options, while your counsellor helps with the emotional side. Some of our therapists use CBT, and others work in a person-centred or integrative way. We'll help you find someone who feels right.
Starting is simpler than you think
Reaching out is often the hardest part. From there, we'll guide you through each step.
Get in touch
Fill in our short contact form and tell us the best time to call. Share as much or as little as you like.
We'll call you
We'll ring at the time you chose for a relaxed, no-pressure chat about what's going on and what you'd like help with.
Start your sessions
We'll match you with a therapist who suits you and send a secure video link. Then you just log on.
Questions about self harm counselling
Yes. Many people find it easier to talk about self-harm from somewhere they feel safe, like their own home. Online self harm counselling helps you understand the feelings behind it and find other ways to cope, at a pace that feels manageable.
No. Your therapist won't ask you to make promises or judge you for where you are. The focus is on understanding what's going on for you and gradually building other ways through difficult moments. Change tends to come as those feelings become easier to manage.
If you can, it's a good idea. Your GP can offer medical care and talk through other support. Counselling can work well alongside that, and your therapist can help you think about how to have the conversation.
Your sessions are confidential. The only exception is if your therapist were seriously worried that you or someone else was at risk of serious harm. Even then, they'd usually talk to you first. Your therapist will explain all of this in your first session.
You can talk to Childline for free, day or night, on 0800 1111, or chat with them online. It's also really worth talking to a trusted adult, a teacher or your GP. If you're under 18 and would like counselling with us, a parent or carer will usually need to get in touch first.
You'll find our current prices on our fees page. Sessions last 50 minutes.
You deserve support, just as you are
Send us a message and we'll get back to you within 24 hours to arrange a call at a time that suits you. There's no pressure, and you can share as much or as little as you like.
Opening hours
- Monday – Friday9:00 – 20:00
- Saturday10:00 – 15:00
- Sunday10:00 – 15:00
We can't offer crisis support. If you're in danger or feel unable to keep yourself safe, call 999 or go to A&E. You can call Samaritans free, day or night, on 116 123, or NHS 111 (option 2 for mental health). If you've hurt yourself and need medical help, go to A&E or call 999. See our crisis support page for more.